The feeling of “deployment” is finally settling in. Its been about 3 weeks, and I’m finally starting to feel exhausted. Single parenting is no fun….its no easy thing!
In the military, I’ve heard people say that “deployments will either make you or break you,” when it comes to marriages. Unfortunately, I’ve had friends whose spouses cheated during their deployments, which eventually led to them divorcing.
And it’s so sad, when things like this happen.
Cheating is the single, most disgusting, most divisive thing you can to do your family.
But, its hard to be lukewarm on this, because I have a few very close friends who have gone through this. I also have a few not so close friends who have confided in me about this…..
I can’t even imagine how it is for celebrities, who must live such surreal lives. When you have “yes” people all around you, when you are so incredibly rich…..Its no wonder that celebrities always date other celebrities or other rich people. And its no wonder that there are SO many celebrity divorces, when a famous career is typically the first priority.
And, you know, Kim Kardashian is an incredibly beautiful young woman. She had a fairytale wedding, and dreamed of a “happily ever after.”
And she is NOT the only one out there who dreams of that. How many of us, as little girls, dreamed about what our “knight in shining armor” would look like?
And, lastly, how many of us were disheartened….learning that love is not a fairy tale, the knight in shining armor does not exist, and “happily ever after” is not as simple as it sounds?”
Some of you have never really struggled within your marriage. That’s great!
But, most of us will. Whether its financial, personality conflicts, trust….distance, children…..
How many of us ran into an ex, and came away saying, “He/she hasn’t changed at all!” And, you say this in a negative way….
Meanwhile, men always say that they want a woman who never changes!
But we all HAVE to change to become a better person, a better wife or husband, and a better mother or father.
And I will confess, that Chris and I have had our own struggles. The past 1.5 years were incredibly hard on us. We went through A LOT. We are still going through some of the A LOT. We had some of our worst arguments ever….
Ladies, daughters, friends and sisters! Marriage is not a fairytale because fairy tales do not exist.
Out of these characteristics come LOVE. ( Those are just a few characteristics, by the way)
Yes! Real, true, gotta have it, love! Which is actually flexible, actually CAN be broken, and actually is not always romantic.
You see, real love, CAN be disrespected. It CAN be broken. It can be thrown on the ground, break it into a million pieces, turn it to dust, and fly away into the wind.
But it will NEVER disappear. LOVE always finds its way back. Love always heals, and it ALWAYS repairs the wounds of the soul.
Love is the greatest gift we can give one another. It can consume a a raging fire and melt a heart of stone.
It can survive in the most desperate of circumstances.
Love is a constant. Always adapting, yet never changing. Love is not just a desire, but a basic NEED.
Love, it endures.
I have taken away a lot from the past 1.5 years. And one idea I have taken is this….
So, instead, I will become an author. I will write my story, just the way it is – just the way it happened.
I will NOT quit.
When the past and present is written, I will continue to write.
Because although I cannot control what happens, I CAN control HOW I react.
I can react and survive with indiscriminate grace. I can choose to persevere and to fight for what is mine. I can choose to forgive. I can choose to love myself. I can choose to LIVE. I can choose JOY!
I will write page, after page, after page, of my own love story.
If God is love, and love is of God ( 1 John 4: 7-8 )…then shouldn’t we all take it WAY more seriously. Shouldn’t we actually talk about it? And isn’t our love for our spouses and children a direct reflection of our relationship with GOD?
Ooooh, now that’s kind of scary. More than that…its downright honest AND a whole other blog post.
But seriously, let us allow LOVE into our lives. Let us fill up on love and let love POUR into the lives of others. Because in this way, ALL will reap love’s harvest.
Today, I saw a quote from Misty Edwards, singer, songwriter, musician and member of IHOP (International House of Prayer). She said:
” Love, loves to love, and the reward of love, is love.”
Simply said. Simply true. Powerful. And from that quote, this blog was inspired!